On the show today we are joined by Vanessa Marin, who is a sex therapist specializing in helping women achieve orgasms. Through her work, in person and online, Vanessa has coached countless clients towards more fulfilling sex and a greater understanding of their bodies. In our conversation we cover Vanessa’s early desire to become a sex coach and the challenges that she faced on her journey towards her current status.
We then get into the nitty gritty of the big ‘O’, unpacking different types of desire, the dual control model, common myths on the subject and the helpful concept of curiosity. We also discuss sex toys, menopause, and some of the methods and resources that Vanessa offers.
“I always knew that female orgasm would be a hot topic in this area but I was definitely surprised by how many women were really desperately seeking some sort of solution.” — @VMTherapy [0:03:38.7]
“There’s a really powerful relationship between desire and orgasm and I think that a lot of women tend to neglect that relationship.” — @VMTherapy [0:07:50.3]
“I think it’s equally as important to think about what are the things that get in the way of me feeling desire.” — @VMTherapy [0:13:28.8]
Vanessa Marin — https://vmtherapy.com/
Brown University — https://www.brown.edu/
New York Times — https://www.nytimes.com/
Oprah — http://www.oprah.com/index.html
Real Simple — https://www.realsimple.com/
Finishing School — https://vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasm/
Emily Nagoski — http://www.emilynagoski.com/
Come As You Are — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are
On today’s show we welcome Laurie Watson. Laurie is a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Couple’s Counselor and author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage. She is also the co-host of a podcast along with Dr. Adam Matthews called Foreplay: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples, designed to help couples keep it hot.
In clinical therapy, she has helped thousands of couples recover sexual passion and make love again in joyful, intimate, creative and exciting ways, sometimes even after years of sexless marriage. Inside this episode we dive into the topic of people wanting to reignite their passion and the desire that’s lost in a marriages or relationships. Laurie shares some incredible strategies to help you get back that fiery passion, today. We also diving into Laurie’s 444 Solution and getting your SEX confidence back!
“Within two years of marriage, one third of all couples are sexless.” — @asklauriewatson [0:03:31.1]
“If there’s no big bang, there’s no big deal.” — @asklauriewatson [0:09:12.1]
“We need a talking avenue and we need a physical touching avenue to really have secure attachment.” — @asklauriewatson [0:15:53.1]
Laurie Watson — http://lauriewatson.com/
Laurie’s Website — https://awakeningscenter.org/
Laurie on Twitter — https://twitter.com/asklauriewatson
Laurie on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/foreplayrst/
Laurie on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/foreplay_radiosextherapy/
Laurie on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-watson-436b551a/
Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage — https://www.amazon.com/Laurie-Watson-Wanting-Sex-Again/dp/B00G4GDCVI/
FOREPLAY: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples — http://foreplayrst.com/
Awakenings Center — https://awakeningscenter.org/
Love and Sex Quiz — https://awakeningscenter.org/love-sex-quiz/
Make Love Not Porn — makelovenotporn.tv
Today on the podcast we are joined by a very special guest, none other than Alice Little from the Bunny Ranch and the Wing Woman Podcast. Alice is one of the most prominent sex workers in America and she is here to give our listeners expert advice and all round insider scoop on great sex and easy tips for increased pleasure and intimacy. In our discussion we cover Alice’s personal history and thoughts on sex work and perceptions around the subject. From there we cover dirty talk, orgasms, oral sex, BDSM and a lot more. Alice also gives some practical advice for body positivity and managing a partner of a different height in the bedroom. For all this amazing information and more from a truly wonderful ambassador for better sex, join us for today’s episode!
“I believe so strongly in the good that legal sex workers can do for society and I believe so much so that it’s the perfect job for me that I plan to continue to do so.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:05:27.3]
“If you can’t talk about sex and intimacy outside of the bedroom, you’re never going to get to the point where you can express yourself openly and comfortably while actually in the bedroom.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:06:51.9]
“It’s the biggest sexual mistake that America is making right now, we’re failing to ask what our partner actually likes.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:10:26.9]
Alice Little — https://thealicelittle.com
Wing Woman Podcast — https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/wing-woman-podcast/id1434992925
Alice Little Twitter — https://twitter.com/TheAliceLittle
Alice Little Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/thealicelittleofficial/
Moonlite Bunny Ranch — https://www.bunnyranch.com
Alice Little Email — alicelittle@bunnyranch.com
Dennis Hof — https://www.dennishof.com/about-dennis/
Ron Jeremy — https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000465/
Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy — https://www.tandfonline.com/toc/usmt20/current
Sephora — https://www.sephora.com
Ulta — https://www.ulta.com
Kink — https://www.kink.com
Kink University — https://www.kink.com/channel/kinkuniversity
Adam and Eve — https://www.adameve.com
Liberator — https://www.liberator.com
Pornhub — https://www.pornhub.com
Fleshlight — https://www.fleshlight.com
Jason Julius is a world renowned sex coach and female orgasm expert and his goal is to help as many men, women, and couples achieve the amazing sex lives they deserve. In this episode we are going to discuss everything a man can do to give his partner more intense and satisfying pleasure inside and outside the bedroom. We also dive into how to really get your female partner aroused by communicating with her throughout the day, and building on the fantasy for her ultimate sexual readiness. Jason is very candid and shares all his tips and advice on stimulating your female partner’s G-spot and A-spot, ways to encourage her to let go towards ejaculation, and the real culprits behind premature and delayed ejaculation for men. So if you’re listening and have a male partner, you may want to get him to listen to this episode too!
“I think that there’s a huge misunderstanding about female desire and how female desire actually works.” — @jasonjulius [0:05:37.1]
“For guys, we need to understand that we need to be constantly flirting with our woman to create the fantasy that she desires to get her mind engaged.” — @jasonjulius [0:09:10.1]
“The purpose of foreplay is to build up the fantasy.” — @jasonjulius [0:13:35.1]
Jason’s Squirting Tutorial Video - http://www.orgasmarts.com/
Jason Julius — https://www.jasonjulius.com/
Jason’s website — http://www.orgasmarts.com/
Jason on Twitter — https://twitter.com/jasonjulius
Jason on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnJ25wY59ezVT3CXFunkuQQ
Come As You Are — https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090